The range of emotions I deal with on a daily and weekly basis would be enough to drive anyone mad. It's a bit crazy, so excuse me if this blog seems to jump around!
There have been so many things on my mind lately. One of which is... It's up to me to make each day a good one. Yesterday, as I prepared for my day, I thought, "I am in control of the way I embrace the day... so why not make every day a good one?" It's about attitude... It's about outlook. I know things will come up that make me mad or frustrate me... but I need to look at things in a new light. I want to be someone who can light up someone else's day. Someone people view as positive and uplifting. Someone who shines no matter what.
Life is too short to be miserable all the time.
Those words are OH SO true. I had to change my situation and change my life to get to where I am now. I AM happy. I am having an amazing time doing my thing. Living MY life. Being free to embrace the things I love.
What makes me mad about this "being happy" thing? Other people. If my happiness isn't a result of what they think is right for me... then they can't be happy for me. They can't accept me. They can barely even talk to me because they don't understand it... and they won't try to. Sorry I'm not sorry for finally doing what I want to do and being happy about it. I am not here to make everyone else happy. I still struggle with people-pleasing because I've done that my WHOLE LIFE! But there's been so many times I stopped and realized that those things didn't make me happy. I can't continue pleasing everyone else... because that's when I became a shell of a person. Someone who had nothing of her own. Someone who could only daydream about what she truly wanted life to be like!
Why can't we just be kind and loving? I guess this goes back to my post about judgement. These days, things are so conditional. We can't just accept and love someone... we have to make sure they meet our criteria.
I am who I am. I have tried too long to please everyone else. And right now, I just want to be ME! I want to live life, and stop being miserable... I want to be able to stop worrying about what someone will say or think of me. I want to just live... love... laugh and be ME! Is that too much to ask?
Monday, October 6, 2014
Tuesday, August 12, 2014
#NoJudgement
It's been a while. I've had a lot going on in my life, and haven't allowed myself the time to sit down and pour out my heart. But man, have I missed it! Writing always seems to soothe my soul; and this particular topic has been on my heart and mind for a while now.
Judgement.
I am so exhausted with the constant judgement that surrounds me. Now, don't get me wrong... I am guilty of judging others as well... but I'm diligently trying to become more aware of my own actions. I guess my biggest issue is that people make judgements before they even get to know someone.
Someone walks in... Maybe they are black, white, Mexican, Asian, Indian... Whatever. Maybe they don't wear the kind of clothes you do. Maybe they don't have a hair cut you like. Maybe their hair is dyed some crazy color. Maybe they have piercings. Maybe they have tattoos. Who gave you the right to judge that person?
What hurts the most to me is the Christians out there who will immediately write someone off because they see the outward appearance. How is that a good representation of Christ? So what is that person has a past? Don't we all? Their past may be rough... and may be different than yours, but that doesn't make them a terrible person. The past is what builds us and makes us who we are today. If it weren't for my past, I wouldn't be ME.
If you have an issue with that person... that is YOUR problem, not theirs. They are who they are... And you can't expect them to change for you to meet your "standards" of a "good person".
It makes me absolutely crazy. There are some people out there who have been through more than you could ever imagine, but they may be the nicest person you've ever met. BUT if you write them off before even trying to get to know them... then you might miss out on a wonderful friendship or relationship. The outward appearance does NOT make the person! The past doesn't represent that person today.
I know there's so much more I could say about this... but to sum it up:
Stop judging. Start loving. Start giving someone a chance. It could change your life...
Judgement.
I am so exhausted with the constant judgement that surrounds me. Now, don't get me wrong... I am guilty of judging others as well... but I'm diligently trying to become more aware of my own actions. I guess my biggest issue is that people make judgements before they even get to know someone.
Someone walks in... Maybe they are black, white, Mexican, Asian, Indian... Whatever. Maybe they don't wear the kind of clothes you do. Maybe they don't have a hair cut you like. Maybe their hair is dyed some crazy color. Maybe they have piercings. Maybe they have tattoos. Who gave you the right to judge that person?
What hurts the most to me is the Christians out there who will immediately write someone off because they see the outward appearance. How is that a good representation of Christ? So what is that person has a past? Don't we all? Their past may be rough... and may be different than yours, but that doesn't make them a terrible person. The past is what builds us and makes us who we are today. If it weren't for my past, I wouldn't be ME.
If you have an issue with that person... that is YOUR problem, not theirs. They are who they are... And you can't expect them to change for you to meet your "standards" of a "good person".
It makes me absolutely crazy. There are some people out there who have been through more than you could ever imagine, but they may be the nicest person you've ever met. BUT if you write them off before even trying to get to know them... then you might miss out on a wonderful friendship or relationship. The outward appearance does NOT make the person! The past doesn't represent that person today.
I know there's so much more I could say about this... but to sum it up:
Stop judging. Start loving. Start giving someone a chance. It could change your life...
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